Can the level of emotional intelligence determine your career development?

 

　　 Does the height of EQ determine your career development? First of all, we look at the performance of low EQ from the negative side:
　　 Replace moral values ​​with values. If a person’s behavior does not conform to our values, then he will be considered immoral or evil. Our common manifestations include accusations, insults, classifications, etc. It is important that we do not confuse value judgments with moral judgments. The root of violent conversation is that people ignore each other's feelings and needs, and blame each other because of conflict. This situation in the workplace will affect the normal progress of work.
　　 A common wrong form of "alienated communication". In today's society, many people compare material, spiritual, cultural and information with others. As a result, we neglected the basic inner needs. The more you compare, the greater the psychological gap will be, and you will be more prone to extremes when working with a team. Not conducive to career development.
　　 Hardship: We often suggest threats to others to do something. If you don't cooperate, you will do it. Such people are accustomed to judging right from wrong, pursuing their own authority, obtaining correct and wrong standards, and obtaining self-satisfaction. Doing so is nothing more than drawing yourself a prison and enclosing yourself. What are the benefits for career development?

         What do people with high EQ sometimes do?
　　 Build a vocabulary to express feelings
　　 Expressing feelings clearly requires rich vocabulary. "Very good" and "very poor" often fail to meet the needs of actual work and life. In order to express various feelings clearly, the following glossary has been compiled:
　　 Some words in the vocabulary of knowledge and feelings use different vocabulary to express their feelings in communication, so that the communication will be smoother, so don't talk nonsense about the words~ remember a few.
　　 learn to listen
　　 When others speak, we are often eager to give suggestions, comfort or express our attitudes and feelings. In fact, the listening process is often the most overlooked stage. The core idea of ​​listening is: no matter what others say, we must first let go of our existing thoughts and judgments, experience each other wholeheartedly, and understand and accept the feelings of others. At the same time, we need to return to the concept of non-violent communication: observation, feeling, need, request. Listening makes us bravely face our weaknesses. It can also help us prevent potential violence, make conversations lively and interesting, and understand the feelings and needs behind "no" and silence. In fact, listening is to help people heal their souls.
　　 express anger reasonably
　　 The first step in expressing anger reasonably is for us to stop blaming others. If we think "what he did wrong makes me angry", then we will inevitably blame others. However, the reality is that our emotions do not depend on the behavior of others. Anger is generated in our way, and its core is unmet needs. In order to express anger reasonably, we need to be clear about our needs and take action. However, it is not easy to do this, because anger will drive us to punish others instead of satisfying needs. More often, the cause of anger is not what others have done, but how we perceive each other and their behavior.